"Hey..congrats..heard that you got promoted"
"Wow..that was an awesome appreciation mail..way to go buddy"
"Good show man..mightily impressed"
All three situations usually receives the same response - either a blush (in case of really young people) or a self deprecating mumble (in case of middle aged). Whatever the case may be..people often find it difficult to react to situations of genuine appreciation. The more morbid the scenario, better i've seen people adapt and react. But praise is one sure as hell slippery slope which tricks many a master. In general our mind are well tuned to react to adverse situations and majority of the books and mentors teach us how to face adversity. But there are not many around who teaches us, how to accept success gracefully. Infact, problems bring with them sympathy as company but success always is accompanied with scrutiny. The bigger the success, bigger the scrutiny. Many a times people sothapify the post success scenario. If overdone, its pompous, if underplayed, you dont know how to market yourself. While nothing satisfies like succeeding..nothing spoils like success too. Last few weeks, had a chance to witness, three different reactions to three similar situations and was wondering how much the incident had changed the personality of all the three people involved. If only people could handle those two impostors, triumph and disaster, better.....
"Wow..that was an awesome appreciation mail..way to go buddy"
"Good show man..mightily impressed"
All three situations usually receives the same response - either a blush (in case of really young people) or a self deprecating mumble (in case of middle aged). Whatever the case may be..people often find it difficult to react to situations of genuine appreciation. The more morbid the scenario, better i've seen people adapt and react. But praise is one sure as hell slippery slope which tricks many a master. In general our mind are well tuned to react to adverse situations and majority of the books and mentors teach us how to face adversity. But there are not many around who teaches us, how to accept success gracefully. Infact, problems bring with them sympathy as company but success always is accompanied with scrutiny. The bigger the success, bigger the scrutiny. Many a times people sothapify the post success scenario. If overdone, its pompous, if underplayed, you dont know how to market yourself. While nothing satisfies like succeeding..nothing spoils like success too. Last few weeks, had a chance to witness, three different reactions to three similar situations and was wondering how much the incident had changed the personality of all the three people involved. If only people could handle those two impostors, triumph and disaster, better.....
Comments
Hehehee...Even I can't handle compliments and am sensitive to negative comments.
நான் சொல்லலீங்க, கண்ணதாசன் சொன்னது.
ஐயையோ! :( கனதசனா?.. வாலியா?.. கரெக்டா தெரியலையே......:)
(உங்க philosophy 100% ஒப்புகொள்ள வேண்டியது, எத்தனை பேர்லா இப்படி சிந்திக்க முடியும்)
Promotion ist? - Congrats. If not all the best :)
The best way is to show ur million dollar smile illaya ;P
Infact i am reading this article after my first success in my new office..
See here u have a fan following ur posts even before it get published.
Vidya
hmm...appo self appraisalnu onnu ethuku? :)
@asha:
ada..enakelam promotiona!! nalla vela en damager itha padikala :D
@venkat:
kannadasan thaan :)
:)
@rt:
athey athey...accepting compliments is romba kushtamappa :)
ada..u r backaa.. :) soober :) kareeta sonnenga..smile ur way out :D
@Ravi:
hey congrats to u too :)
@venkat:
avvv...itha than sontha selvula sooniyam solrathu..mega mokkaiyaoru post ready :D
aaha..one sec gapla padichiteengala :)
@viddie:
doing it with flair...atha thaan kushtamngaren :)