Thursday, September 29, 2016

Truly madly deeply

What is the starting point for identifying your passion? Does it start from childhood? Is it a matter of co-incidence that makes you stumble onto it? Or is it sheer fate that leads you to it? Even if you figure it out, how to start believing? Off late one question that rings in mind non-stop is on the topic of trust. How does people begin to trust whoever the other person maybe? To have trust in one's own abilities and backing themselves is a totally different aspect, over which at least we can have a semblance of control. But how or when does one start trusting another person? Does it start with the other person doing things on expected lines? Does it get strengthened in one’s ability to predict the reactions and responses of the other? What happens when the other person on whom you base your trust happens to be your spiritual guru?!!

I got drawn into a conversation by accident that set the stream of questions raised above. It was between two of my colleagues who are also absolutely-no-nonsense devotees of a late holy seer. During lunch they were having animated discussions on the events they were planning with no penny on hand, having full faith on their guru and how things just simply fall in place every single time. They were as determined as they come to make a difference in the life of those who are deserving and were discussing various other people as well, who are part of their group on how they go about in their charity work without even a hush. Note that this is not a religious group or some famous cult or NGO but merely a set of people who are driven by their passion to serve the needy in guidelines with the teachings of their spiritual guru. Their absolute, unquestionable, unflinching faith and devotion on their guru and the passion with which they go about their activities were contagious to say the least. It was obviously heartening to see how volunteering for social causes, which of course is their passion, drove them across the state and the interesting and unbelievable experiences that they encountered. What was astounding was that, whenever they start, they have just a plan and no idea on funding, logistics or any resources for that matter. They just pray to their guru and their faith on him ensures that the event runs to success every single time!!! If at all there appears to be a need for anything, it always is made available to them from some unknown source who wouldn’t even have been there at the place but for some chain of events. It might sound like way too much of a co-incidence and magical to say the least. But the point that was appealing to me was their passion. Their trust in their guru which they believe is the single factor driving and they are very humble and careful to attribute every single success to their guru’s grace and not even by mistake do they take credit for anything.

How do you trust someone/something so wholeheartedly? Is trust an implicit faculty that everyone is born with, which is kindled on upon satisfying certain parameters? Or is it a toggle switch that is always On by default and is switched off when the other person fails to justify the faith? I am not putting these questions as a pessimist or as a cynic filled with negativity. In my family everyone has their own spiritual guide but for me and my mom, for whom, everything and anything is worth following and praying. Looking at fellow people with such staunch beliefs and redoubtable passion with which they follow their beliefs, be it community service or teaching or helping with logistics, they all seem to take it up with a joy in their heart and smile on their lips and are truly happy in doing what they do. Even if I push myself to join them in their activities, beyond a while, it becomes monotonous and I question my own sincerity in being a part of it. Feels so jealous to see those people who are so sure on what they want to do in their life.

What is that one thing or many things that I am passionate about and will I ever be able to realize it within this lifetime? If at all I am unable to decide, at least I plan to buy that Honda bike called Passion before it goes out of production. That way it would truly be my passion that would be driving me!!

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Who killed 9 AM?

People who are unfortunate enough to visit by this blog would know about the punctuality of gilsbert and how comfortable and dependable he is in keeping up on time, which has been explained in no less than several thousand words across so many posts. It so happened one day that, despite all his reluctance, he had to set up a call early in the day, to catch up on the tasks to be done, before the clients came barging in the evening.

After much deliberation, it was decided to be scheduled at 9 AM. Much to his surprise, there were hardly any takers for the call. The responses for rejection were more on the lines of  "i would be on commute and hence tentative" or more simply since they left late yesterday, joining a call at 9 was simply out of question for those invited. Not one of them mentioned that they had a conflict with another call at that time, which usually would be the standard response for rejection. And when he checked their calendars before setting the call, the 9 to 10 window was the only available free slot across all of them.

There are quite a lot of people, be onsite or offshore, who doesn't bat an eyelid when it comes to taking calls at odd hours in the morning. Probably the only reason being they can take it from home. But 9 AM is cursed in that aspect that if you take the call from home, you would be much delayed for work and if you've to take it from office, you've to be in really early!!  The risk of taking such calls on commute varies from external disturbances to signal loss.

Coming back to the topic, is the concept of 9 AM really practical in current day scenario? Did any one question how long did they play the previous evening or how late into the night they stayed awake studying (!!??) and hence couldn't be on time for school? Does anyone pray excuse and ask any train or flight to wait since they were held up on traffic or request for a rerun of those scenes missed while going for movies? Then why the same sense of importance is not assigned to in-time for offices? Coming from some one who is titled "late" even when alive, these questions are not mere rhetorical but rather practical. And these would be very questions posted by any corporate management to insist on the perfect in-time.

They are not much wrong in their genuine query, except that the answer for it lies on the other side of the day. How concerned those very people, who raise these questions, are on the out time for the employees? What effort do they take to ensure people leave on time? how many managers can cross their heart and say they don't set up meetings after 6? In this cut throat competitive world, where you blink and miss business and with the pay lords sitting on other side of the planet, is it logical to shut shop at 6?

Nayagan dialog thaan nyabagam varuthu - "mudhalla avangala nirutha sollu..aprum naan nirutharen" !!!

Monday, September 19, 2016

To B.E or not B.E

"Do you understand physics jokes?"

A rather innocuous sentence or question. But the situation in context was hilarious or sad, depends on which side of the conversation you were.

A friend of mine, your typical America mappillai, recently had a skype chat with his possible bride-to-be. Ponnu paakrangaratha epdi solrathu? hunting sonna sandaiku varanga. Anyways. While discussing about their respective profiles, that girl suddenly had popped the question. Though he had heard the question, he was kind of confused as to if he heard it right and had it reconfirmed. While deliberating over the question, it was explained to him that, since he was from art and science background and not an engineer, that girl had wondered out loud, would he be able to appreciate nerdy jokes like science jokes. Needless to say on the status of the discussion. He polambified to me and was funny cursing the day he chose not to take up engineering and settled for B.Sc. Though we had a hearty laugh at it, it was strange to think that, people are still so hung up on engineering as a qualification!! That too while screening profiles for marriage!!!

There used to be time when IT companies used to select only engineering grads and even if selected science grads would be paid only half the salary as engineering grads and would probably be the single biggest reason for attrition in the science grads group. Not sure if the trend continues even now. Considering the above situation, Matrimony Profile filter conditionla humour sense ulla paiyyan venumnu podrathu poga, engineering padichi, physics/chemistry/botany/zoology jokes purinjikara, paiyyan venumnu inimay add pannuvanga pola!!

Pasanga pavam.

Thursday, September 15, 2016

The second of the seven

Some time back i had posted about a person, whose life story stunned me, for it was what i felt, would've been my life story, had the choices i made been any different. Personality wise his was an extreme version of mine. Anything i had in mild he was the wilder version, the espresso to me latte. It was an interesting study in contrast for me as i had a ring side view of what would've possibly happened in my life if i had chosen the other road that i left behind. I had even posted about it in this very blog.

There is a saying that there are always seven people in the world, who look the same - possibly the crudest translation of "unna mathiriye ezhu per ulagathula irupanga". Recently, i met the second of the seven. This guy's life story was a lot more similar and curiously, our lives had been interconnecting for past decade and a half without either of us realizing. We had stayed on the same street, on houses on either side of the road. When he was in Hyderabad, i was in Chennai and when i went to USA he came back from there to Chennai. While bride hunting, we both have been screened by same girls and idhula perumaikuria vishayam is, have both been rejected by them. We both have been on same company but different locations and the answer to how come ithana kathai you know is that now we both work on the same company. After by passing each other all this while, finally fate has found a seat for us on the same section.

While talking, rather listening to him talk, i got to know all those kathai mentioned above. For starters, it was the first ever time, i am interacting with someone who talks more than me!!! Overa pesarangara arthathula mattum illa..more on volume. Not the sound, but quantity. While we both share varied interests, mine have mostly be the nuni pul meyara level, while he has alasi aaranjified everything. While he is still a fitness freak, that streak died in me a while back. While his belief factor around faith is immensely more than mine, the confusion regarding our career and life in general was an unifying factor still. The more he spoke, the more i got convinced on how my life would've been had it not been for a "yes" exchanged few years back.

I couldn't stop thinking on that 7 people adage ever since. Probably what it meant was not in literal sense that there would be 7 dopple gangers all looking like carbon copy of each, but more to illustrate the fact that, we are not alone in whatever that happens in our life. Be it the choices we take or not, its always a life lived by another, who for all we know, might be our next door neighbour.