Whenever I find this term bandied around, it makes me stop and observe that particular situation. For I feel, there is no greater insult to ego than being labelled as attention seeker. Agreed, there could be specimens who purposely do and even thrive on such activities. But for the innocent many, it’s a punch in the gut that knocks the wind out of them. The most recent instance I heard of this word was during the infamous “Big Boss” show, where one of the participant was labelled as such. That lady terms herself a failed actress and has been pretty vocal in her efforts to attain fame-dom through the program as her vehicle. She un-abashedly had taken part in every stupid task thrown at her and had “played” at the last legal extent allowed within the rules of the game and even secured top points. Yet the crowds didn’t vote for her and she had to lose out.
It’s just another reality show and the results are pretty much stage managed at every single step of the way. But the way the rest of the participants interact with this evicted lady makes an interesting study on how personality plays a big role in perception. There are 2 ladies on the show, one a popular actress, known more for her looks with some of her movies being moderate hits and the other being the evicted lady, your normal looking plain jane. Even by their own admissions, the good looking-big eyed-dimple cheek lady is well known for her laziness and goofiness and skips most of the tasks when they become physically challenging. The plain jane, does all household tasks and participates with tomboyish vigour on every activity and fights to win. Typically, you would expect one to be rooting for the latter. But more often, it’s the look that wins over the pluck.
Many a times I’ve noticed in groups that, people with smiley faces, manage to get away with everything despite being the dumbest and even rude at times. Despite being equally talented, it’s always the outward personality of the person that helps in scoring first, with looks being a definite plus. People tend to get attracted first, based on physical appearances and definitely take time to understand the person to make a better judgment call down the line. In the interim, any effort by the latter, if labelled as attention seeker, it literally maligns their inner belief. Not everyone are cut out to be part of a group, leader of a pack and at times even to be heard. Everyone loves an audience and no one deserves appreciation less than anyone else.
Certain words are like symptoms of diseases. The more you think about them, you would feel yourself to be diseased. Same with such negativity spewing labels like “Attention seeker”,”Selfish” etc. The moment I heard the anchor, label that lady as attention seeker, the self-comparison was inevitable. Every single person on FB and other social media, even blogging for that matter, can very well fit into an elaborate net of this word. Seeking attention is what anyone on these platforms may be doing indirectly, but it wouldn’t be worth putting a label, making it as the only reason is my argument.