Divorce pathi there was a discussion in one of the chat shows. Why the current decade has become the decade of Divorce..
Due to decadent beliefs which are unable to sustain the onslaught of querying minds? Lesser and lesser number of people who are willing to adapt to newer environment? Rise of the Amazons - ithana naala silent sufferersa iruntha ponnugaloda parents suddenly find voice and arent willing to bow back?
Or a more scarier picture..a willing society which accepts divorce??!!!
More than any other point the last one, i feel, is the most impacting reason. Ippo mattum en divorce jaasthiya iruku? ithana varushama ilaama? oru vela IT industry vanthu ellarum aairakanakkula salary vangarathala financial independence reasona irukumo apdinu neria per put forth their thoughts. Financiala independenta irukara families ipo neria irunthalum ithuku munnavum irunthanga. Still they managed to conduct a married life..balancing hiccoughs and misunderstandings and providing a stable family life to their kids. Avangalukum problems irunthirukum aana they still managed to hang on. Is that grit..that mental strength missing from today's generation?
Divorce used to be a taboo subject till sometime back. Divorced ponno..paiyano..were seen like outcasts. Outcast maybe a harder word. But they were looked down by people. Divorcee nalay..problematic case. Just like AIDS patients..wrong blood transfusionala vanthiruntha koooda..how many think like that. Ipo irukara life style may be more stressful..ipo irukara lifestyle is way too fast for people to stand or sit to reflect on their thoughts and actions...ipdilaam solrathu i somehow couldnt agree. We are all bonded to society..being integral part of it and all the norms which are applied by a society are what governs people..irrespective of whichever era you are in. Ipo irukara society is more open minded and liberal and that is something which no one can deny. Intha societyla..even divorcees find respect. Antha bayam poidichi..that if u break a relation..you wouldnt be treated like a leper and you can still survivengara hope is there. More than that..single mothers..dads.. are finding it easier to manage both their lives and their kids in present society. The current society gives more respect to individuals as much as couples. Apdi oru acceptance irukarapo people are more willing to give up rather than hold things together swallowing down their pride and ego. The current crop dont have the mental stress of fear of acceptance by the society which their parents might have endured. Antha sense of freedomay has spelled doom to the instituation of marriage onu thonuthu.
Freedom iruntha misuse panikaratha..how can such a positive change in society be blamed for this apdinu neenga kekalam. 100% agree..no doubt that this is a positive change which would prove a boon for many a destitute victims of divorce. Aana its coming without a caveat that it can be misused. "Aaiyiram poiyya solli oru kalyanam pannanum" apdingarathulam i am not sure how valid it would be in present day world. Need of the hour is to respect the individuality and personal space of spouses. The concept of sacrifice is something seen as a defeat. Entha oru relationshiplayum..even be it friendship for that matter..survives solely on give and take. Putting yourself on other person's shoe is something i feel will definitely help in soothing the ruffled feathers.
There are lot of positives in today's society - be it shedding false inhibitions or women empowerment..equal opportunity employers - more than anything respect for individuals. Ivlo nalla vishayam nadanthiruku nadanthindu iruku iniyum neria nalla changes varum. Our country is famous for its joint family system..athu naasama poidichi ipo. Family values and strong marital relationships where a plus. Athuvum engayachum nasinji poidumonu bayama iruku. Who knows..soon we might be talking in detail about Live-in relationships which are threatening to wipe the concept of marriages off. Nalla yosinga makkalay..