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"NO" esy thing to remember..

Sometime back i was in a situation. I could have delayed it and fixed it myself but since it was getting messier with each passing day i decided to take help and close it at the earliest. When in need, like everyone else, i've a select set of people who are my fallback options. Never for once i doubt their sincerity or their availability for me. Such is my loyalty to them i am sure same would be their feeling towards me. But on this particular incident..both the people whom i approached turned negative. Logically i could convince myself of the response..but emotionally it was a big blow. Their "NO" was heartbreaking. They were someone, who i consider a part of my life and to whom i approach to for any major decision in my life. Someone who know me better than most of the other folks. I had always taken them for granted to be available for me. That i realised was a major blunder and luckily for me that minor issue opened my eyes. Never for one moment i blame them or nor is this a post to bring them down or something. I felt just like me there might be folks around who have their own "comfort people" on whom rests their contingency plans. It never pays to take anything for granted..not even ur own shadow.

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Priya said…
Totally agreed. Its time and space and no matter how close u r to them, they need their own space to be with their own ppl.
RamNarayanS said…
Interesting!!! They might still be available for you for some other matter if you go back to them, but you may now become hesitant. It is definitely a crack in your perception of loyalty and friendship if you get a 'No', but hey, they are open to have stated it. There should have been certainly their own reason and rationale in doing so (since you quote it as becoming 'messier', it looks tricky to a 3rd party entity like me) and everybody is right in their own domains and at that point in time.

Let it go free and not hinder your friendship. At some point in time, if they have not told you the reason, they will. Give them that rope.

Peace.
G3 said…
Adappaavi.. sura padathukkellam ungalukku tkt bk panni tharamudiyaadhunu sonnadhukku imbuttu peelinga oru posta !!! avvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv
gils said…
@pri:

absolutely...the idea behind the post is to bring out the "mirror" look of perception. u get "good" u do "good"...apdi pona entha relationum work out aagathu. at the same time..u going out of ur way to do things for people..while they remain selfish to themselves..apdi oru "eena vaana" va vum iruka kudathu :)
gils said…
@rammmm:

kandippa raammmmmmmmmmmmm.....giving ropelaam too much of a word. they are nice people..much much better people and much more matured than me. naan kiddisha yosikaratha vachu aduthavangala judge panna maaten :)
gils said…
@g3:

ithunaala thaan neenga g3ya irukeenga :D :D ipdiye maintain panikunga :)
Matangi Mawley said…
very true! rightly said...
kanagu said…
true Anna... we can't take anything as granted from anybody...
Karthik said…
Why imputtu feelings.. GIlma should be happy.. THerinjavangalukku seida udavai nambala kaapathum, theriyadavangalukku seira udavi namba vamsathaye kaapathum
mgnithi said…
//It never pays to take anything for granted..not even ur own shadow. //

Avalo thaan thalai mattera.. kareeta knadu pudichiteenga..
lostworld said…
Ayyoo evalo posts!:)
Oh chill gils, don't sweat the small stuff!! Go for a movie.

and please remove the word verification! easier to comment.
Aarti said…
Oye gils, annikku amethyst kootindu poyi jillunu onnum vangi tharalannu thaane ippadi feelings?? tsk tsk. adutha thadava, naan niraya ice kondu varein!! :))

chillax yaar.. ithu ellam happens in our lives.!!
Aarti said…
hi G3- eppadi irukkeenga???? :-) oru salute from ooty!!
Anonymous said…
//Its time and space and no matter how close u r to them, they need their own space to be with their own ppl.
/

this is more theoretical priya :) practicalla its an emotional thing and very difficult to gulp :)
Anonymous said…
// At some point in time, if they have not told you the reason, they will. Give them that rope.//

hmmm..again..nothing matches the relish of bashing up people for watever little they did or otherwise :D but at the same time..putting myself in their shoes..i cudnt convince myself of their reaction towards my issue. Anyways..i am doing wat u've told here already :) giving lottttttt of rope :D
Anonymous said…
@matangi and kedi:

:)))

@kanagu:

//we can't take anything as granted from anybody...
//

athey athey
Anonymous said…
@kart:

eppa saaami...thathuvamaananda

@nidhi:

/Avalo thaan thalai mattera.. kareeta knadu pudichiteenga..//

:D :D yeah
Anonymous said…
@LW:

:) yeah will do tht :-)

@rt:

grrrrrrr..next time no amethyst. Nellai pazha rasam is ok for me.
Swaram said…
Hmmm .. u hv a point there!
Anonymous said…
Should have read this 10 months before.. But ippovum onnum kettu pogala. Danks ba

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