Carrer women Vs Home makers - part 1

Should Women go to work after marriage? which is better suited for a woman post marriage? being a home maker or being a career oriented woman? This has been the hot topic in the talk shows in the past two weeks. Raging debates, with active participation from both men and woman, talking for and against the view. Everyone talked with their personal experience as proof/reason for their view. Several interesting points came up.

One main point, almost all the people who participated were either teachers/lecturers or IT people or Bankers. There was very little or no representation from other industries. May be these are the sectors which heavily employ women? Definitely not i should say. Infact, i read in a magazine. According to some survey, job for women apdina udanay first thonara jobs ennava irukumnu ketrukaanga. The result was predominantly in favour of front office personnel/models based on their looks (this brought lot of criticism but a real fact), nurses following close second with teachers coming a distant third.

There were many points raised by working women, who didnt want to go to work because they said, they missed being with their children when their kids needed them and also that they miss seeing them grow, uttering their first words, unable to go out with their hubbies or spend time with their inlaws (ithu mega dupe). When a guy goes for work..he misses all these things too. Wonder why no one asked a dad as to how he feels to miss his kids first utterences and things like that. Motherhood is saintly. Divine. No questions asked or no criticism raised. Agreed. But give some thought to a dads plight also, people.

All these days women liberation, equality, same pay.. all those stuff were there and were quite rightly fought for. Now that women are into almost all the fields as men are, why the cribbing that they miss their motherhood. The fact which irks me is that, its really people who can afford to send their kids to a creche or daycare center are the ones who crib the loudest. Imagine the plight of garment/export office lady workers or those into construction jobs, daily wagers and all. The fact is that they dont even have a representation itself says volumes of their plight. People talk of empowering women with work. Well these people are not working to establish their "empowerment" but rather are forced to do such hardwork for their daily bread. Does anyone questions them as to how do they feel when they are not around to hear their new borns first word?? Whether they are working out of choice or for want of a better living?

P.S: Ending extended to part 2 :D

Comments

Zanychild said…
I used to wonder abt the working women and those who do not!
well my Bro. used to ask my mom when he was small y she did not work?
and even today my mom feels at times it would have been nice if she had gone to work
as a matter of fact opinion differs
and u r right wen u said abt those ppl. who are not represented, well take the example of the maid who works in ur house, even she is a working woman but do we take them into consideration?
it takes time for men and women to accept facts and reality..and to me women should go to work only if there is a dire need!
nandoo said…
just as fyi we have balwadi and anganwadi provided by govt which is there in almost all rural areas where these poor women can leave their children and yes the balwadis (day care/creche) are running full ...
Ramya Ramani said…
\\ When a guy goes for work..he misses all these things too. Wonder why no one asked a dad as to how he feels to miss his kids first utterences and things like that. Motherhood is saintly. Divine. No questions asked or no criticism raised. Agreed. But give some thought to a dads plight also, people.\\

Gils Let me list out my points here

1.Women should definitely work - For sake of financial support/being independent/Confident

2.Sure Fathers do miss being with their parents but the way a mother takes care,spends time with kids greatly vary from a father.
A women by nature has patience(or may be developed dealing with her husband)nd explains a child things.She steps into the shoes of the kid nd explains her/him.A father cannot match a mother in this.So it is very natural that a mother feels for missing such things.

3.We can surely have kids taken care in day care centers but still the kid would expect someone esp mother @ home back from school. I personally felt really bad when no one is @ home when we come from school. Atleast making a cup of tea becomes a herculian task for a kid at a very young age :(

Oops sorry for the lengthier comment :(
Ramya Ramani said…
Just a Thought If a family isn't a nuclear one working women life will be pretty relaxed I think
mgnithi said…
will post my comment after part 2
:-)

btw.. congrats for ur 200 not out...
Divya said…
கில்ஸ், இப்பதான் இரண்டு பகுதியும் சேர்த்து படித்தேன்......ரொம்ப நல்லா எழுதியிருக்கிறீங்க கில்ஸ்!!
gils said…
//well my Bro. used to ask my mom when he was small y she did not work?//
hmm..ipdilam kuda pasanga kekuma??!!

@nandu:
//we have balwadi and anganwadi provided by govt which is there in almost all rural areas where these poor women can leave their children and yes the balwadis (day care/creche) are running full ...//

neenga solrathulam ok..aana evlo iruku intha mari...it doesnt reach many..
gils said…
//Women should definitely work - For sake of financial support/being independent/Confident//

ithula no prachanainga..but women just dont remain as women alone..the roles which they play define them..verumna womennu solrathu is like liquid..no shape..wen u identify them as mom..sis..wife..they take the shape of the role..angenthu than prachaniaye..

//So it is very natural that a mother feels for missing such things.
//

ithu bongu...aluguni..so directa neenga solla varathu enanna..dads are not so bothered over these emotions..sellathu sellathu
gils said…
//We can surely have kids taken care in day care centers but still the kid would expect someone esp mother @ home back from school. I personally felt really bad when no one is @ home when we come from school//
i never advocate day care center..aana velaiku vanthay aganumnu kattayam irukara situationla its a blessing..but definitely not a replacement for parents..
gils said…
/If a family isn't a nuclear one working women life will be pretty relaxed I think//
hmm..it does brings it own complexities with it..but yeah..sila critical points like child care can be sorted out..

//will post my comment after part 2
:-)//
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//கில்ஸ், இப்பதான் இரண்டு பகுதியும் சேர்த்து படித்தேன்......ரொம்ப நல்லா எழுதியிருக்கிறீங்க கில்ஸ்!!//
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