Career women Vs Home makers- part 2

A family with 2 earning members definitely enjoys its financial benefits. But there are certain people who fear that it would mean dilution of the male domination. Head of the family, till date, in our social system, has been either the earning member or the eldest in the family. When two people of almost same age get married and if both go to work, fat chance that there might be ego clashes. Maybe in future we might see terms like arms of the family, legs, eyes and kidneys for the sake of satisfying egoes ;)

In the same talk show there were ladies who wanted to go to work but couldnt due to protesting hubbies and family members. Their main complaint was that, despite being qualified or already serving in a job of their choice, marriage was the reason why they couldnt fullfill their career ambitions. And many claimed that despite having kids and responsibility towards the elders in their family they argued that they would be able to manage their careers.

There is another intersting yet difficult angle which was subdued by sounds of rationality. Velaiku pora ponnungalam thimir pudichavanga. Veetuku adanga maatanga. So better option is not allowing them to work after marriage apdinulam silar argue pannanga. Ithu outrighta reject panna vendia oru thinkinga irunthalum oru iota of unmai irukaratha vachu yosichu paatha..well..kaila kaasu iruntha oru thani confidence athuva varathu thaan unmai. Athai thimurunu solli working ladiesa adaki vaikrathu nyayam ilainalum it definitely creates more complexities. And that too if the wife earns more than her hubby.. god forbid.


On one side, it would be a real waste of their potential if they have to sit at home after earning all required professional qualifications, feeling bored to death, doing the mundane, but no less important, daily tasks. On the other hand, the very foundation of our family system is built on parents and its always assumed that the lady of the house always gives the mother in her, first priority against her own wishes and dreams. Be it the founder of Infy or any successful man, there is always the woman who has silently strangled her own ambitions and dreams.

To avoid such deadlocks people should sit and discuss clearly as to what they want to be and for how long is it sustainable. One maynot be always able to decide and foresee all situations. But the fact that they have set the thought process rolling would be a definite postive first step. If it can be reasonably established that a decent living can be enjoyed with one persons salary itself its better for the other spouse to take care of home, now whose head should be the on the chopping block is something which is onesided at present and its always the ladies who quit their jobs for their family.

However liberal or rebellious in mindset a guy maybe, the day that he sits at home taking the role of a home maker while sending his wife to work, maynot be possible even in the next century. I mean the real positive people and not the drunkards and similar invalids. "Udhyogam purusha lakshanam" is something OWNED by right by the menfolk ever since they evolved. Not an easy one to relinquish. And even the ladies are mesmerised into thinking that the menfolk SHOULD be the bread winners. Will we seeing such a mature society in future where women lead the way with active support from men?? I really dont see it happening in my lifetime atleast :)

Comments

Divya said…
'நீயா,நானா'...விஜய் டீவி டாக் ஷோவில் இந்த ப்ரோக்ரம் பார்த்தேன் கில்ஸ்,
ரொம்ப நல்லாயிருந்தது.

நீங்க பதிவா அதை சூப்பர எழுதீட்டீங்க:))
Divya said…
\even the ladies are mesmerised into thinking that the menfolk SHOULD be the bread winners. Will we seeing such a mature society in future where women lead the way with active support from men??\\


நல்லதொரு கேள்வி!!
Divya said…
\..kaila kaasu iruntha oru thani confidence athuva varathu thaan unmai. Athai thimurunu solli working ladiesa adaki vaikrathu nyayam ilainalum it definitely creates more complexities. And that too if the wife earns more than her hubby.. \\

பொண்ணுக்கு திமிரு வருதோ இல்லியோ.....தன்னைவிட தன் மனைவி அதிகம் சம்பாதித்தால் கணவனுக்கு கண்டிப்பா inferiority complex வந்துடும்.

ஆனா, பெண்கள் தன் கணவன் தன்னை விட அதிகம் சம்பாதித்தால்.......அதை பெருமையாகவே கருதுவார்கள்.

அதிகம் சம்பாதிக்கும் பெண்ணிற்கு வருவது திமிரு என்பதை விட....அதிகமான ஆதிக்க உணர்வு என்றும் சொல்லலாம்,
எல்லாம் பணம் படுத்தும் பாடு:))
Divya said…
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Zanychild said…
well if you have the potential to juggle everything then there is no one stopping you from doing your work, ad for men turning homemakers! well it might happen if they plan to live for their life and not based on what others are going to say!
If the men turn to be really good at being a homemaker why stop them!!
apadi oru paiyana thaan naan theditu iruken, still no sucess *wink*
gils said…
//பெண்கள் தன் கணவன் தன்னை விட அதிகம் சம்பாதித்தால்.......அதை பெருமையாகவே கருதுவார்கள்.//
interesting point...the expectation is that gents are supposed to earn more

//அதிகமான ஆதிக்க உணர்வு என்றும் சொல்லலாம்,
//
idhu kamal pesara mari iruku :D :D poova poonum solalaam puipamnum solalam
gils said…
//apadi oru paiyana thaan naan theditu iruken, still no sucess *wink*//
aaaha..kelambitaangaayaa...kelambitaanga

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