Career women Vs Home makers- part 2

A family with 2 earning members definitely enjoys its financial benefits. But there are certain people who fear that it would mean dilution of the male domination. Head of the family, till date, in our social system, has been either the earning member or the eldest in the family. When two people of almost same age get married and if both go to work, fat chance that there might be ego clashes. Maybe in future we might see terms like arms of the family, legs, eyes and kidneys for the sake of satisfying egoes ;)

In the same talk show there were ladies who wanted to go to work but couldnt due to protesting hubbies and family members. Their main complaint was that, despite being qualified or already serving in a job of their choice, marriage was the reason why they couldnt fullfill their career ambitions. And many claimed that despite having kids and responsibility towards the elders in their family they argued that they would be able to manage their careers.

There is another intersting yet difficult angle which was subdued by sounds of rationality. Velaiku pora ponnungalam thimir pudichavanga. Veetuku adanga maatanga. So better option is not allowing them to work after marriage apdinulam silar argue pannanga. Ithu outrighta reject panna vendia oru thinkinga irunthalum oru iota of unmai irukaratha vachu yosichu paatha..well..kaila kaasu iruntha oru thani confidence athuva varathu thaan unmai. Athai thimurunu solli working ladiesa adaki vaikrathu nyayam ilainalum it definitely creates more complexities. And that too if the wife earns more than her hubby.. god forbid.


On one side, it would be a real waste of their potential if they have to sit at home after earning all required professional qualifications, feeling bored to death, doing the mundane, but no less important, daily tasks. On the other hand, the very foundation of our family system is built on parents and its always assumed that the lady of the house always gives the mother in her, first priority against her own wishes and dreams. Be it the founder of Infy or any successful man, there is always the woman who has silently strangled her own ambitions and dreams.

To avoid such deadlocks people should sit and discuss clearly as to what they want to be and for how long is it sustainable. One maynot be always able to decide and foresee all situations. But the fact that they have set the thought process rolling would be a definite postive first step. If it can be reasonably established that a decent living can be enjoyed with one persons salary itself its better for the other spouse to take care of home, now whose head should be the on the chopping block is something which is onesided at present and its always the ladies who quit their jobs for their family.

However liberal or rebellious in mindset a guy maybe, the day that he sits at home taking the role of a home maker while sending his wife to work, maynot be possible even in the next century. I mean the real positive people and not the drunkards and similar invalids. "Udhyogam purusha lakshanam" is something OWNED by right by the menfolk ever since they evolved. Not an easy one to relinquish. And even the ladies are mesmerised into thinking that the menfolk SHOULD be the bread winners. Will we seeing such a mature society in future where women lead the way with active support from men?? I really dont see it happening in my lifetime atleast :)