Kalyaanam Joaraga nadanthiruchi... :)

My dear makkaas and makkis...unga ellaroda wishes and supportuku nanri...thangai kalyanam joara nadanthuchi...to tell tt i was scared would be understatement..matter ennana...this was the first major "lady"ish event in our family after my athai's marriage, which happened some quarter century back...when all our relatives gathered under one roof for my cousins marriage, well..considering the situations which happened that time, all of us were seriously scared..but by gods grace...right form engagement everyone were cooperative to the core...except for some minor very small things without which none of the marriages are complete..the event was relatively issue free...yaarlaam trouble pannuvaangannu bayantheno everyone where cooperative and were even helpful! Relativesnaalay prachani panravanga...they dont understand us..alyways egositic...ivangalaam illama iruntha nimmadhi...ipdilaam ninaikara makkaas...one nimit ithai padichitu ponga...when u get ur sisters married..that time only you will realise how wrong or right it could be...luckily for my sis all our relatives pitched in with some help or other...ilaati romba kashtam aagirukum...when all the relatives join hands and pitch in nothing can be more joyous to watch...i could see in real how joint family system, when it works, would have been...cha..inimay vara generation are surely going to miss all the fun cum tension of joint family system...anyways...felt really really happy....

Got few tips for folks with sisters waiting in the wings...use aagumaanu chk panikunga:

1) paiyan veetu selavo illa ponnu veetu selavo...entha sideoda expensaanalum mukkiyama note pannika vendiya, ellarukum therinja, important matter...FOOD....saaapadu sariya illaina scene thaan...almost all comments on marriages begins and ends with food...marriage hall...its proximity...the crowd which comes...ithellam possible topicsnaalum...only contender for the top slot for gossiping is Food..so make sure..it comes out good..luckily for us...saapaadu was a soooper dooper hit...ella velayum..ella itemum..nalla irunthichi....caterer details venumna...mail madi.guarenteeda nalla irukum..and affordable rate....vaasallla vazha maram katrenthulenthu...last day food packing varaikum...ellam avangalay pathukaranga...

2) ithu first pointa vida important....vanthvangala kavinikarathu....athuvum saapdrapo..visarikarathu romba romba important....even if the fud is gud..gavanikarathula mistake panna scene thaan....potential time bomb...tick aagarathukula defuse panidrathu romba impt...

3) kids...ivangala mathiri ice brakers yaarumay iruka mudiyathu...saapda vara kidsa nalla pathukunga..tho they mite turn out to be calvin+dennis+dilbert+all naughtiness and haughtiness mix...if u can win over them or atleast try to genuinely take care of them...ungaluku pass mark kandipa undu and it has a snow balling effect...kidsoda parents avangaloda parentsnu list romba perusu..

4) perusununa udanaynyabgam varuthu...kalyanathuku vara vayasananvanga are the second best option of ice breakers...ivnga kita gud certificate vangita...half the job done...so take extra care..rendu sweet ..rendu vadai rendu applam...ellam double gavanippa irukarathu saala siranthathu....

5) be ready to kaalla vizhundhify as many times as the groom and bride...kandipa it will help in earning brownie points for u from both the sides...ithu varaikum sonna naalu pointum common brownie points..ithu personal brownie point...so note it down.....

6) last and most important point....contrary to the popular myth...marriagesoda responsibilities mudiyarathilla...they increase manifold....getting ur gal married is jus a duty...it brings several responsibilities...post marriage it increases even more...kalyanathula gavinichitu veetuku varum boathu kandukalina...it spoils all the brownie points earned...so beware...atleast first konja naalikachum per oorelaam nyabgam vachikarathu nallathu...

7) oor koodi izhuthaa thaan ther nagarum...its worth its weight in gold for marriages....relations ilatha kalyanam...can never be complete...ithu en sister marriagela kathunda romba mukiyamana lesson...ellarum nallavanga thaan..aana ella nerathulayum nalalvangala irukarathu avasiyamillainu thonuthu...enna solreenga....adutha post azhaikirathu...varta...

P.S:
BSK sorryba...ithana naal gappa..athan sethu vachu typiten :D)

Comments

Sat said…
edhu, ivalo naal varadhdukku rendu post-a sethu pottu asathitapla?
:)

hmmm....appadiye kalyana veetuku poittu vandha feel :)
looks like u had a good, rather hectic time
enakku en akka kalyanam thaan gyabagam varudhu
enatha solla, adhuku na vaangina thittu, alanja alaichal...i dont think any other event paduthified me so much
en akka kalyana saapadu taste kooda i couldn't remember, pasi ....but panthila kadasiya ponadhu naa thaan :(
taste ellam yaar gavanicha, payasamnu solli thayir saathatha serve panni iruntha kooda aaha supernu saaptu irupen
and kalyana velaile romba pidikadhadhu indha ubasarippu thaan
ee-nu sirichi kittu varavangala vara verkuradhu, saapida hall-ku kootitu poradhu...indha gavanipla i suck big time
i get horribly embarassed!...ennamo avanga saapidraduka inga vandhu irukaanga, let them move freely-nu (rational-a pesuradha nenapu) solli amma kitta dhukum vaangi katti kiten!
if i ever was in the hospitality and service industry, care of footpath thaan!
luckily though indha kalyanathukku aparam vara relatives gumbal-a naa samalikala! next morning a limping me was back on the flight to UK :(
Janani said…
Ahaaaaaaa..... Intha points ellam romba nanna irukke.. Konjam porumaiya padichu note panalam nu irukken.

btw veetule marraige mudinchathukaga CONGRATS. Summa va sonnanga veetai katti paar kalyanam panni paar.
golmaalgopal said…
cool...gud to know all went well...

brownie pts :) lol!!
KK said…
Suer Duper Gils!!! :D
Neenga sonnathu romba romba correct :D
I learnt all this during my sister's marriage.... But I used to do for all my cousings marriage too... so was quite exerienced by the time my sisters wedding hapd :D

Appadiye kalyanathu potti panigaram'la irunthu konjam sweet and karam parcel :D
Heidi Kris said…
super.. oru sms anupirkalaame post potutenganu.. anyways glad to know that it went on very well :-)
Arunkumar said…
supera time spend panni postirkinga.. brownie points ellame very true. agree cen percent. enakkum enga akka marriage thaan nyabagam varudhu though neraya work done by my dad as i cudnt get more than 2 days leave...
priya said…
Gils: Engalku sweet dhan tharaley, atleast andha sweet pictures pathavadhu we will be happy.

Glad to know things went on well.
Bharani said…
Good to know that marriage went fine :)

Ivlo lessons-a...thala suthudhu...one second muduga paarthukaren :)
G3 said…
Great to know that mrg went well.. Photos upload panni share pannungo :-)

appuram Gils annakkalukkellam super advice kuduthirukaaru.. ellarum paathu padichu follow pannungappa ;-)
G3 said…
@Bharani : Ennadhidhu.. Ippo dhaanae unga veetla oru kalyaanam nadandhudhu.. neengalum indha maadiri lessons neraya sollanumae atleast neenga paathukitta 2 depts pathi ;-)
gils said…
@sat:
:D :D en post sizeku comment poatu kalkiteenga..ungalukaaga spl DBC parcel frm oaraveedu :D yeah...ditto on the smiley face part...enaku fotomania undu..Chandler Bing mathiri CHEESEEEnu sonna FREEZE aaiduven...more comfortable on the other side of the camera...foto eduka vanthavar paavam..oru stagela..neenga siricha thaan naan still edupennu solli enna siripa sirika vachitar...
gils said…
@jan:
velgum back after long time..yes..rightly said..
gils said…
@golmal:
brownie points criticalungo :D

@kk:
vaasathavamana pechu..if u had been doin this frequently its gud...keep doin it...it strengthens bonding and helps in time of need..me one bludy reserved fellow..thideernu stagela vita thiru thiru muzhika vendi thaan...lucky escape for me...as for palagarams.fedexed already :)
gils said…
@heidi:
:D sorrynga..maranten..

@arun:
hmm..enakum athey case thaan ...but sollamakollama rendu naal leave extenditen :)

@priya:
ungalukilladhadha....foto ennanga...fedexla nejamavay anupivakaren..address mailunga :)
gils said…
@bharani:
:D :d idelaam onnumay ila..guess u shd've more exp than me in this, goin by wat g3 says :D :D

@g3:
nanri nanri nanri
adada! en kalynam nenavu vandurthu! :)
postidalam seekirame :)) welcome back! btw, akka kalyanathukku edhukku ithana bayam?? :-/
gils said…
56@porks:
:D hattrick comments :)akka illeenga..thangai...18th??number fav.?

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