Kalyaanam Joaraga nadanthiruchi... :)

My dear makkaas and makkis...unga ellaroda wishes and supportuku nanri...thangai kalyanam joara nadanthuchi...to tell tt i was scared would be understatement..matter ennana...this was the first major "lady"ish event in our family after my athai's marriage, which happened some quarter century back...when all our relatives gathered under one roof for my cousins marriage, well..considering the situations which happened that time, all of us were seriously scared..but by gods grace...right form engagement everyone were cooperative to the core...except for some minor very small things without which none of the marriages are complete..the event was relatively issue free...yaarlaam trouble pannuvaangannu bayantheno everyone where cooperative and were even helpful! Relativesnaalay prachani panravanga...they dont understand us..alyways egositic...ivangalaam illama iruntha nimmadhi...ipdilaam ninaikara makkaas...one nimit ithai padichitu ponga...when u get ur sisters married..that time only you will realise how wrong or right it could be...luckily for my sis all our relatives pitched in with some help or other...ilaati romba kashtam aagirukum...when all the relatives join hands and pitch in nothing can be more joyous to watch...i could see in real how joint family system, when it works, would have been...cha..inimay vara generation are surely going to miss all the fun cum tension of joint family system...anyways...felt really really happy....

Got few tips for folks with sisters waiting in the wings...use aagumaanu chk panikunga:

1) paiyan veetu selavo illa ponnu veetu selavo...entha sideoda expensaanalum mukkiyama note pannika vendiya, ellarukum therinja, important matter...FOOD....saaapadu sariya illaina scene thaan...almost all comments on marriages begins and ends with food...marriage hall...its proximity...the crowd which comes...ithellam possible topicsnaalum...only contender for the top slot for gossiping is Food..so make sure..it comes out good..luckily for us...saapaadu was a soooper dooper hit...ella velayum..ella itemum..nalla irunthichi....caterer details venumna...mail madi.guarenteeda nalla irukum..and affordable rate....vaasallla vazha maram katrenthulenthu...last day food packing varaikum...ellam avangalay pathukaranga...

2) ithu first pointa vida important....vanthvangala kavinikarathu....athuvum saapdrapo..visarikarathu romba romba important....even if the fud is gud..gavanikarathula mistake panna scene thaan....potential time bomb...tick aagarathukula defuse panidrathu romba impt...

3) kids...ivangala mathiri ice brakers yaarumay iruka mudiyathu...saapda vara kidsa nalla pathukunga..tho they mite turn out to be calvin+dennis+dilbert+all naughtiness and haughtiness mix...if u can win over them or atleast try to genuinely take care of them...ungaluku pass mark kandipa undu and it has a snow balling effect...kidsoda parents avangaloda parentsnu list romba perusu..

4) perusununa udanaynyabgam varuthu...kalyanathuku vara vayasananvanga are the second best option of ice breakers...ivnga kita gud certificate vangita...half the job done...so take extra care..rendu sweet ..rendu vadai rendu applam...ellam double gavanippa irukarathu saala siranthathu....

5) be ready to kaalla vizhundhify as many times as the groom and bride...kandipa it will help in earning brownie points for u from both the sides...ithu varaikum sonna naalu pointum common brownie points..ithu personal brownie point...so note it down.....

6) last and most important point....contrary to the popular myth...marriagesoda responsibilities mudiyarathilla...they increase manifold....getting ur gal married is jus a duty...it brings several responsibilities...post marriage it increases even more...kalyanathula gavinichitu veetuku varum boathu kandukalina...it spoils all the brownie points earned...so beware...atleast first konja naalikachum per oorelaam nyabgam vachikarathu nallathu...

7) oor koodi izhuthaa thaan ther nagarum...its worth its weight in gold for marriages....relations ilatha kalyanam...can never be complete...ithu en sister marriagela kathunda romba mukiyamana lesson...ellarum nallavanga thaan..aana ella nerathulayum nalalvangala irukarathu avasiyamillainu thonuthu...enna solreenga....adutha post azhaikirathu...varta...

P.S:
BSK sorryba...ithana naal gappa..athan sethu vachu typiten :D)